Article Submitted by: Jennifer Call
More than ever, children are moving out at the first opportunity. Under 25 college enrollments are set to hit 12.3m this year, according to the National Center for Educational Statistics. That number continues to rise, signaling a greater level of flight from the family home; and that’s without considering those leaving home for other pursuits.
Children moving out of the home is a difficult time for any family. In the cooperative environment of co parenting it provides a unique challenge. Maintaining the level of organization and support you provide for your child requires a little thought, but is absolutely achievable.
Considering what support they need
Coparenting often brings with it an excellent level of support and control for your child. While a child will probably have a considerable amount of emotional and financial dependency on their parents when they leave the home, it’s important to value the independence that they will be learning. One study, from the Benessee Educational Research institute, notes that employers consider independence crucial, and so it’s important to allow breathing room. Instead, consider what support they need. Help them to learn how to manage their money, the importance of sticking to a schedule, and the work/life balance.
Covering joint costs
The student loan system means that prospective learners from a range of backgrounds can go to college, but it’s not uncommon for parents to foot some of bill. In fact, according to CNBC, 34% of tuition comes from parent savings. As a coparent, it’s important to ensure that this is fairly accounted for. However, many students will require further cash injections over the course of tuition, regardless of whether they find employment or live frugally. Be prepared for this, and use professional software to ensure knowledge and a fair split between coparents.
Maintaining the family edge
College and work are exciting, thrilling times for young adults. Despite this, homesickness is very much a factor; according to HAP, 30% of students become homesick to some extent, with 69% experiencing homesick symptoms. The financial and organization aspect aside, it is absolutely crucial for coparents to ensure that link with their child. Schedule, collaboratively, regular trips. Make use of modern communication tools to keep in touch regularly. You can also think of little things to make life easier – mementos, or imparting recipes for home cooked favorites.
Sending your loved one away from the home is an exciting, nervous, but positive experience. Focus your efforts on making every aspect of your coparenting relationship is ironed out and in order. That way you can focus on emotionally supporting your young one through their onward life.